Save Your Hugs for Someone Special?

[AngieAki]

Today in Health we where talking about relationships and making the right choice. Eventually the teacher said "Okay now I am talking mainly to the girls here, don't show cleavage. Don't just give it away because the boys don't deserve it, save it for when you are married." That part I totally understood... but I have a nice bust and I will still show a modest amount of cleavage. It was the next part that puzzled me.

"And don't give your hugs to just anyone. Don't go around hugging all of the boys like it means nothing. Save your hugs for someone special."

WTF? I hug a lot of my friends and there is nothing sexual about it. I don't do it everyday but I do it about once a week. Actually today I hugged about 3 of my male friends. Big deal. *rolls eyes* No, they weren't lingering or sexual at all, just little hugs. Okay one was a long hard hug but that was between me and a boy I had just told I liked at he rejected me (sad I know LOL).

But anyway, does this mean anything to anyone? "Save your hugs for someone special"? I know that "hug" wasn't a substitute for "sex" because she had already said "sex" pretty openly. *shrugs*

[No Ticket]

Hugs are still better than drugs.

[Attila the Professor]

Hmm...this is probably coming out this way because I was just reading an article about British comedian Steve Coogan, but she's a bizarre little twit.

[Bjorn Heimdall]

The first part, don't show your clevage, well, did you take the class in 1945 or something? Seems a bit odd to point that out. Of course prancing around in class with a wonderbra and showing your cleavage off like it's the next big thing, you don't have to do that, but it wouldn't kill noone to show it a bit every now and then.

As for don't hug just anybody... well I can identify with that more. You can do what you want with your hugs, but they defo mean more when you save them for special people in your life. Nothing much sexual about them, hugs are for close family as much as good friends.

you must have forgotten your cleavage when that boy rejected you lol:p

There is one hilarious line in that post though:

Okay now I am talking mainly to the girls here, don't show cleavage.

Myself, I'm heavier now then before (damn Christmas food!) but if I ever get manboobs, I'm not showing off my cleavage anyway!!!:gun:

[Violet Indy]

This lesson sounds like teaching a sense of modesty more than anything else. This is going make me sound like a total square but that is kinda how I live my life. I don't really hug guys, even if they're friends unless we're celebrating like a wrap on a shoot or something. I don't really show my cleavage, even though I was bullied throughout high school coz the popular girls were all jealous of my bust. I couldn't believe that when one of the girls told me why she had been so mean to me just because my bust was bigger than hers. :eek: So stupid. I haven't worn one of those ultra-plunging neck-lines coz I prefer to be covered and my body shape just doesn't support it.

Sure, I haven't had a boyfriend or on a date in 2 years, possibly because I don't do those things, but it's just who I am and how I was bought up. I still live with my parents and I really don't want my parents to see me with my cleavage hugely exposed. That's as bad as seeing my mum with hers exposed. It's a two way street. Even if I didn't live with them, I still wouldn't.

[AngieAki]

This lesson sounds like teaching a sense of modesty more than anything else. This is going make me sound like a total square but that is kinda how I live my life. I don't really hug guys, even if they're friends unless we're celebrating like a wrap on a shoot or something. I don't really show my cleavage, even though I was bullied throughout high school coz the popular girls were all jealous of my bust. I couldn't believe that when one of the girls told me why she had been so mean to me just because my bust was bigger than hers. :eek: So stupid. I haven't worn one of those ultra-plunging neck-lines coz I prefer to be covered and my body shape just doesn't support it.

Sure, I haven't had a boyfriend or on a date in 2 years, possibly because I don't do those things, but it's just who I am and how I was bought up. I still live with my parents and I really don't want my parents to see me with my cleavage hugely exposed. That's as bad as seeing my mum with hers exposed. It's a two way street. Even if I didn't live with them, I still wouldn't.


I honestly don't show much cleavage. Plunging necklines=no no. I go as far as the average tank top, sometimes a little further. I have big boobies too but I have NEVER been picked on for them. I am sorry that happened to you.

[Gear]

So this was a female teach? I REALLY dont think a guy teacher would wanna go there.

I dont see whats wrong with huging someone you like (both as a friend or a lover). Its a sign of affection not just "sex" or anything like that.

Well baby, whats wrong with shaggin' a around? It's the swingin' 60's! Free love man! And remember baby, only sailors wear condoms!

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[AngieAki]

So this was a female teach? I REALLY dont think a guy teacher would wanna go there.

I dont see whats wrong with huging someone you like (both as a friend or a lover). Its a sign of affection not just "sex" or anything like that.

Well baby, whats wrong with shaggin' a around? It's the swingin' 60's! Free love man! And remember baby, only sailors wear condoms!

[IMG]http://www.solarnavigator.net/films_movies_actors/film_images/Austin_Danger_Powers_Mike_Myers.jpg

Haha!!! You are right about that Gear..

And yeah, it was a female.

[Attila the Professor]

Really, my objection isn't quite so much to the content of the message as the fact that it was communicated.

My sympathies on the larger bust thing. I have a couple of friends who clearly are always wearing bulkier things, sweatshirts or what not, and avoiding cleavage, because they don't want to deal with that kind of attention all the time.

I'm all for modesty. Frankly, I tend to find it more attractive, to leave more to the imagination. It's only once I'm already attracted to a woman that I really would advocate moves towards more revealing clothing as a policy; it's not what captures my attention, really.

On the hugging thing though - I don't know, maybe it's because I've come from fairly open school communities, both in high school and college, or because theatre is rife with hugging, or whatever, but I can't quite understand this. It's affectionate, yet, but far from being sensual or sexual. It <I>can</I> be, but need not be.

[sarah navarro]

Personally i hate getting hugs from friends or anybody but my family.If i dont know you that well DONT hug me!Especially all those guys that want to hug you but you dont want to give them one .........jeez go get a girlfriend!Dont use me!:p
Im saving my hug for some one special:o

[Finn]

Perhaps she meant hugging the lamp posts? So not really sex ed, but ed against alcohol abuse.

[herr gruber]

General hugs are fine as long as the person hasn't got under arm odours.

[Gear]

General hugs are fine as long as the person hasn't got under arm odours.


EEEWWW!!!! Thats one of the WORST things EVER!

Bad body odour is disgusting.

On a serious note, if you hug someone doesn't that mean their special to you? So my point is that a hug is a sign of affection, not sexual affection but simply affection.

[AngieAki]

EEEWWW!!!! Thats one of the WORST things EVER!

Bad body odour is disgusting.

On a serious note, if you hug someone doesn't that mean their special to you? So my point is that a hug is a sign of affection, not sexual affection but simply affection.
Yes in a way.

But to me, the way it was said, it sounded like she meant boyfriends/girlfriends and family only.