I don't even know what to say

[Nurhachi1991]

I don't even know where to start so I guess I will start at the beginning. I have had a big crush on a girl in my school for over a month. I finally worked up the courage to talk to her and shortly after we became friends. We went to a movie together I paid for everything and she let me so I figured she liked me. We got along great had so many things in common and a few weeks ago I asked her to prom she agreed to go with me and I felt great I honestly felt fantastic like nothing could touch me. I was wrong.......... There was another guy who liked her to he did not know her nearly as long as I did and they started talking and began going out. Only thing is I did not know this. I soon asked her out and she told me that I was a really good friend and still wanted to go to prom but she said she had past relationships where the guy ends up being a jerk. I was sad but I figured I'm still going to prom and who knows maybe she end up liking me. Well today I found out that she was going out with the other guy he straight up told me they were going out. I felt horrible I wasn't even mad they were going out I was just shocked and very very hurt. I told her today that I don't think we should go to prom together and that killed me inside. I was really looking forward to my Senior Prom........ Getting all dressed up driving her there and sharing a very important event with someone I really did care about and just liked being with but I can forget it. It was very embarassing to tell my Father I wasn't going to prom and to have tears in my eyes well I did it.


I just wanted to share this with everyone because I consider you guys my friends and I know I have been annoying in the past so if you want to make fun of me go for it.


):

[Kevin]

Well today I found out that she was going out with the other guy he straight up told me they were going out.

Did SHE ever tell you that she and this other guy were dating? Maybe he was just messing with you to get you out of the way. Did you tell her why you didn't want to go with her?

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Did SHE ever tell you that she and this other guy were dating? Maybe he was just messing with you to get you out of the way. Did you tell her why you didn't want to go with her?

Yeah, I would just come out and ask the girl in a nice way. Maybe even tell her how you feel about the whole situation? If she is seeing the other guy, tell her how you feel.

[Nurhachi1991]

Yes I did discuss it with her today and she told me she is seeing the other guy and I told her how I felt (again) not that it did any good.

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Did she seem concerned over your feelings? If she acted like she did not overly care about how you felt, maybe it was best to be just friends.
I know that that is the LAST thing that you wanna hear. Now, if you really care for her, give her your blessing in her relationship. She will see what a caring and swell guy you are, and that itself may lead to something.

[Nurhachi1991]

She did care and she sinceraly feels bad for how it turned out and that is making me feel worse because I don't want her to be sad :(

[Lonsome_Drifter]

She did care and she sinceraly feels bad for how it turned out and that is making me feel worse because I don't want her to be sad :(

I may be wrong (I'm no Dear Abby), but I would try to act strong for her. Let her know your feelings for her, but say you understand, and that you support her 100%. I believe it is a man's duty to be the woman's rock to lean against. Hard as it is, just try to set your feelings aside around her.
Like I said, I may be wrong. But, that is my two cents.

[indy34]

Sounds to me she's not worth the trouble best you just stay friends:hat: I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there who would go out with you:up:

[Finn]

Great, another one of these...

I just wanted to share this with everyone because I consider you guys my friends and I know I have been annoying in the past so if you want to make fun of me go for it.
Past?

[Nurhachi1991]

She does know how I feel about her and I talked to her a few minates ago and she sounded very upset and had to leave and said she would talk to me later and that really is making me feel horrible because I could give two ***** about my own feelings because I'm used to disapointments and I always get over them eventually. But I'm genuinely concerned for her because I still care about her and just want her to be happy



I even told her that as long as the guy was nice to her and treated her right I was ok but it did not seem to make a difference

[Jeremiah Jones]

Forget about her, in my experience 'just wanting her to be happy' while she goes off with some other guy means you're the one whos unhappy, not her. Shes fine, she made her decision, she fell for this guy, whatever, probably didn't think about you while she was doing it. Then realised she hurt someone, and felt bad about it. It sucks, but those are those are the breaks. She'll be fine. Shes got a boyfriend to worry about her. Now that you've told her how you feel, try your hardest to forget about her. Find someone new.

Can't believe I'm getting involved in these discussions

[Nurhachi1991]

Great, another one of these...


Past?


Yes Finn I understand I'm a god damn annoying loser I get it.

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Yes Finn I understand I'm a god damn annoying loser I get it.

You've never annoyed me. Nor do I think you're a loser. Don't let Finn's remark get you down.

[Hawkeye]

Yes Finn I understand I'm a god damn annoying loser I get it.


Just about everyone is annoying to somebody. And I've yet to see proof that you're a loser. Don't be so hard on yourself. It'll all turn out in the end.

[Violet Indy]

All I have to say is: the girl ain't worth the trouble! If she couldn't be honest with you when you told her the first time you liked her, then she isn't trustworthy. You paid for everything at the dates? Damn, then what's the problem with guys down here?!!!


But I told you before Nurhachi, you could still enjoy the prom and just go for a bit for the sake of going. Why can't you go with a group of friends instead? Don't they do that over in the States, coz we do that over here all the time? Then again, how soon is it? I can understand if it's a couple of weeks away and not wanting to go but if it's a bit longer than that, you might be able to get over it in time.

If I were you, I would do my best to not be around her for a little while, just to give yourself time to heal. If you keep talking to her upset and distressed, it will continue to make you feel hurt and will continue in a downward spiral.

Remember like the other guys have said, there are plenty of girls out there.

[Hawkeye]

[QUOTE=Violet Indy]Why can't you go with a group of friends instead? Don't they do that over in the States, coz we do that over here all the time? Then again, how soon is it? I can understand if it's a couple of weeks away and not wanting to go but if it's a bit longer than that, you might be able to get over it in time. [QUOTE]


Gotta agree with Violet. You could probably find a group of friends to go with. That's what I did for my Senior Prom. Probably had a much better time than I would have had with the girl who turned me down.

[Nurhachi1991]

Yeah but I don't have that many friends since I moved and the friends I have here are not even going to prom.

[QBComics]

Damn dude, that's just not right. Hope you get someone who actually cares for you. :(

[The Magic Rat]

I'll tell you this much. Violet is right, she's not worth the trouble. It's never what you want to hear but yeah, it really probably is turning out alright.

If you have even a group of casual friends that you know you could check in with and such, you could go stag. It's a ballsy move and would probably make you look gutsy. Then again, it can backfire, so you'd have to know how they look at you.

If you could talk a friend into going with you, everything would work out and you might have fun, so don't rule that out yet.

I'll tell you this much, though. It may look like everything sucks right now, but you may be surprised that it works out for the better. I recall my prom. I went, ate the nice meal, was there for about another hour, and left. Unless you're the dancing type, you'd probably end up leaving with your group of friends and go do something else anyway. We did the two times I went.

Maybe you and your friends should just have a guys night and blow some cash on a fun activity of another sort?

Either way, sorry that didn't work out for you.

[Nurhachi1991]

Thanks everyone you guys are right it's not worth it I'm just hurt though that she lied to me thats just not right.



Oh well at least I can buy the Gentle Giant Holy Grail now :(

[Agent Z]

All I have to say is: the girl ain't worth the trouble! If she couldn't be honest with you when you told her the first time you liked her, then she isn't trustworthy. You paid for everything at the dates? Damn, then what's the problem with guys down here?!!!


But I told you before Nurhachi, you could still enjoy the prom and just go for a bit for the sake of going. Why can't you go with a group of friends instead? Don't they do that over in the States, coz we do that over here all the time? Then again, how soon is it? I can understand if it's a couple of weeks away and not wanting to go but if it's a bit longer than that, you might be able to get over it in time.

If I were you, I would do my best to not be around her for a little while, just to give yourself time to heal. If you keep talking to her upset and distressed, it will continue to make you feel hurt and will continue in a downward spiral.

Remember like the other guys have said, there are plenty of girls out there.

Quoted for Truth! :up:



As one of the old timers on the board, and I know you won't realize this now and it's not discounting the pain you are in at the moment, but this sort of thing is almost expected with "dating" at your age.

A blip on the radar in the grand scheme of things, and you will look back on it and understand it better from a distance.

Hang in there! :)

[Nurhachi1991]

I have given this alot of thought and I think the reason I have been so upset is not the girl so much but the fact of having a normal life. Growing up I have had plenty of crushes on girls and I have always gotten turned down so this was nothing new to me. As a kid I was moderetly overweight and did not really take a serious look at eating right and excercise till about a year ago but after I slimmed down and started eating right still nothing happened than I figured because it was because I did not have a liscense and could not drive so I got my drivers liscence and still no girlfriend I don't know if I'm to nice maybe I should start being a douchebag to girls because it seems like I'm always the " friend" and that is a horrible boat to be in and this time I actually thought I might have a chance to have a girlfriend and everything would balance itself out and to see that chance go out the window really hurt because it has happened all of my life.

[Niteshade007]

First of all, periods would make that a lot easier to read.

Secondly, being a douchebag isn't the answer. Yeah, right now, it seems like girls only seem to date the jerks. And then they complain that there are no nice guys out there. Well, we are here, they're just not interested in us.

Mostly what you need is time. You will find someone, so why be in such a hurry? This doesn't mean let opportunities go by, it just means that if it doesn't work out, there is still the rest of your life to get it right. You're young, in high school, I'm assuming, since you're talking about prom.

I just wouldn't get too worked up over it. It sucks, believe me, I've been turned down too, but you pick yourself up and move on.

[WillKill4Food]

Great, another one of these...
Sorry, didn't realize that I would open a Pandora's Box...

[Nurhachi1991]

Sorry, didn't realize that I would open a Pandora's Box...


More like the Ark :rolleyes:

[Rocket Surgeon]

I finally worked up the courage to talk to her and shortly after we became friends. We went to a movie together I paid for everything and she let me so I figured she liked me. We got along great had so many things in common and a few weeks ago I asked her to prom she agreed to go with me and I felt great I honestly felt fantastic like nothing could touch me. I was wrong.......... There was another guy who liked her to he did not know her nearly as long as I did and they started talking and began going out. Only thing is I did not know this. I soon asked her out and she told me that I was a really good friend and still wanted to go to prom but she said she had past relationships where the guy ends up being a jerk. I was sad but I figured I'm still going to prom and who knows maybe she end up liking me. Well today I found out that she was going out with the other guy he straight up told me they were going out. I felt horrible I wasn't even mad they were going out I was just shocked and very very hurt. I told her today that I don't think we should go to prom together and that killed me inside. I was really looking forward to my Senior Prom........ Getting all dressed up driving her there and sharing a very important event with someone I really did care about and just liked being with but I can forget it. It was very embarassing to tell my Father I wasn't going to prom and to have tears in my eyes well I did it.I just wanted to share this with everyone because I consider you guys my friends and I know I have been annoying in the past so if you want to make fun of me go for it.):

Well well well, what do we have here, a loser!

No, I'm kidding of course...but you have to get over the poor me phase...and quickly. Don't waddle in the mud!

The first good thing you did was get up your courage, felt good didn't it? Well once is not enough, you have to maintain! You have to get that courage up over and over again. Good news is the more you do something the easier it gets, bad news it doesn't mean you're not going to take more lumps!

Give her new guy some credit, he's telling you like it is, not just denying it. If anything, she'll drop him when something better comes along so good riddance! At least you found out before you dropped REAL money on her, (you didn't DID YOU?).

Rule Number 1: Money is a poor substitue for charisma. Sure it'll get you what you want but was it enough? Stop wasting your money, save it.

Rule Number 2: Don't show weakness. You save confessions like that for a time when you know her better.

Rule Number 3: (Warning, sterotype) You have to approach whatever you do as an opportunity. Hell in this season for the Irish remeber they have fun at FUNERALS. Nothiing attracts others like the promise of fun. Smile, laugh, try to make girls laugh! Don't look for the long term, long term should involve your education...REALLY, and saving money!

Rule Number 4: Pay attention to your instincts, don't blindly trust them.

Here endeth the lesson...go forth and have fun!

One last bit of advice, don't even worry about going to the Prom with friends, (if you can...do), you should go to the Prom at any cost even alone. Be happy for this girl, your presence will be a constant reminder of her shallowness, and believe me she thinks about you paying for your date and misleading you (if she in fact did) as much as you. As was mentioned earlier don't take it as an opportunity to be a douchebag, but go. Bring a cousin or something, a friend's sister, an older girl, or whatever, just not your mom. Don't obsess on this chick. Don't even look at her. If you do run into her smile and say something nice and move on.

Living well is the best revenge...show whoever you go with a good time, be fun and you'll have fun.


GO RENT THE TAO OF STEVE...NOW!

DON'T BE A STU, (sorry stoo) BE A STEVE!

Eliminate your desires.
Do something excellent in her presence, thereby proving your worthiness.
Retreat, for as Martin Heidegger said, "We pursue that which retreats from us".

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[WillKill4Food]

Bring a cousin...
No, don't, unless you live in West Virginia. :rolleyes:

[Lonsome_Drifter]

No, don't, unless you live in West Virginia. :rolleyes:

Hey, I live in West Virginia! :mad:

[Nurhachi1991]

Thanks Rocket Surgeon thats great advice :up:

[WillKill4Food]

Hey, I live in West Virginia! :mad:
Just kidding, man. Some of my family is from there. Just a little friendly stereotyping.

But clearly you get the point.
Don't take your cousin to prom.
Period.
Incest is frowned upon in most of civilized America.
Find a friend or someone like that if you can't find a date.

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Just kidding, man. Some of my family is from there. Just a little friendly stereotyping.

But clearly you get the point.
Don't take your cousin to prom.
Period.
Incest is frowned upon in most of civilized America.
Find a friend or someone like that if you can't find a date.

I know you were kidding. I poke fun at my state's stereotype all the time.

[Rocket Surgeon]

Just kidding, man. Some of my family is from there. Just a little friendly stereotyping.

But clearly you get the point.
Don't take your cousin to prom.
Period.
Incest is frowned upon in most of civilized America.
Find a friend or someone like that if you can't find a date.

Really, you needed to clear that up? Sort of like having a law against necropheliac beastiality? Your honor, I wouldn't have sex with a dead cat! What kind of a person do you think I AM? Do you think a dead cat scratched me like that?

She's bait for the prom...

I'm not talking about kissing her, sheesh dude.

[Lonsome_Drifter]

But, could you imagine if his school-mates found out!? Wow, he thinks his life is bad now. . .

[Rocket Surgeon]

Thanks Rocket Surgeon thats great advice :up:

Oh, and change your Avatar, Satipo was a Stu.

But, could you imagine if his school-mates found out!? Wow, he thinks his life is bad now. . .

See, it's that kind of thinking that gets you into trouble...you can't pull a scam like that if you're affraid of falure!

You've got to brave the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune...take arms against a sea of troubles! Be a Steve!

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Oh, and change your Avatar, Satipo was a Stu.



See, it's that kind of thinking that gets you into trouble...you can't pull a scam like that if you're affraid of falure!

You've got to brave the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune...take arms against a sea of troubles! Be a Steve!

Why even pull a "scam"? Why not just stay home on the night of the prom? Who said he had to go anyway? I would rather sit at home than pretend I had a date who secretly was my cousin.

[Rocket Surgeon]

Why even pull a "scam"? Why not just stay home on the night of the prom? Who said he had to go anyway? I would rather sit at home than pretend I had a date who secretly was my cousin.

Could be a friends sister...use your imagination, it's starting point. Sheesh.

You go ahead sit home and wallow in your pity, I don't live in an area where everyone knows me and my extended family from Cabellas or Shoney's.;)

If you read on you might see the "you should go to the Prom at any cost even alone."

I mean, with all the offensive stuff in my post THAT one catches your ire?


Be a Steve

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Could be a friends sister...use your imagination, it's starting point. Sheesh.

You go ahead sit home and wallow in your pity, I don't live in an area where everyone knows me and my extended family from Cabellas or Shoney's.;)

If you read on you might see the "you should go to the Prom at any cost even alone."

I mean, with all the offensive stuff in my post THAT one catches your ire?

I never said you caught my ire, so don't flatter yourself. I just thought it was a stupid idea for him to go with his cousin/sister/friend's cousin and parade them around to be his genuine date.
Yes, he should go alone before he sinks that low or he should stay home or go catch a movie.

[Rocket Surgeon]

I never said you caught my ire, so don't flatter yourself. I just thought it was a stupid idea for him to go with his cousin/sister/friend's cousin and parade them around to be his genuine date.
Yes, he should go alone before he sinks that low or he should stay home or go catch a movie.

you're sharing your ID with your wife again aren't you?

Anyway back to the fun...

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[WillKill4Food]

I'm going to have to agree with Lonsome on this...

Taking a friend is okay if you can't find a date (or, as in my own complicated case, if your friend you are taking is the person you want to date...), but in such a case you must acknowledge that you are only taking a friend.

Parading around like you actually have a date is dishonest and distasteful (and generally lame), and if none of this bothers you because you insist on approaching the situation nihilistically, you must at least consider that there is quite a possibility that you will be found out.

[Lonsome_Drifter]

you're sharing your ID with your wife again aren't you?


Leave my wife outta this; she has her own account here.

Parading around like you actually have a date is dishonest and distasteful (and generally lame), and if none of this bothers you because you insist on approaching the situation nihilistically, you must at least consider that there is quite a possibility that you will be found out.

I could not have said it better myself.

[Nurhachi1991]

No Satipo is a Steve.



I suppose you could always take a fat chick :rolleyes:

[Rocket Surgeon]

No Satipo is a Steve.

You're beyond help...

[Nurhachi1991]

You're beyond help...


Whats wrong with Satipo?

[Rocket Surgeon]

Whats wrong with Satipo?

He's a Stu, he wouldn't have even gone into the Temple.

Didn't you even watch what I posted for you?

[Nurhachi1991]

I watched the first one.


Would you consider Mutt a Stu?

[Lonsome_Drifter]

I must ask; what in Hades is a Stu?!

[Nurhachi1991]

Watch the video Rocket posted

[Rocket Surgeon]

I must ask; what in Hades is a Stu?!

Dude go back a couple of pages to my first post in this thread and watch the video...it will all make sense shortly.

Would you consider Mutt a Stu?

Watch the video...I would say he was feeling pretty Stu for most of Crystal Skull.

[Nurhachi1991]

Now the big question Rocket is if you already have shown the girl your Stu side can you still come out a Steve?

[Rocket Surgeon]

Now the big question Rocket is if you already have shown the girl your Stu side can you still come out a Steve?

You really have to watch the film man! If you're still scheming for this girl, I'm inclined NOT to help you. Although if you're fine with her using you and dropping you, (and doing the same yourself) you've got a whole host of other issues.

Sort of like Dave not being good at something.

Things are not set in stone, it depends on the girl, so the short answer is, depends. Each situation needs to be examined on it's own merits...


Really though, Steve never asks a question like that. Steve just does.
Indy is a Steve, what do you think he would do? What did he do to Willie?

I like this conversation...

[Violet Indy]

First of all, periods would make that a lot easier to read.

Secondly, being a douchebag isn't the answer. Yeah, right now, it seems like girls only seem to date the jerks. And then they complain that there are no nice guys out there. Well, we are here, they're just not interested in us.



And it's the same thing with guys! Already we've had threads including this one, where teen boys are getting upset over chicks that are not good chicks. I'm sorry, but I don't believe it's just a problem for nice guys.... it's a problem for nice girls too. Believe me! To guys (I guess partly because of the industry I've chosen), I am one of the guys because I get on with the job and have a lot in common to talk about with them and am not the token pretty gal.

And you know, often I have sat in on guy group conversations and often they agree on the same girls that are hot. And I thought, guys had their own individual tastes :rolleyes: . And when a guy does approach me, they are douchebags, and remind me of one ex or the other, so I refuse giving my number. Maybe girls that want a guy will just take whoever approaches them first, but I dunno, I've been single for 3 years now and maybe I have become way too fussy. Don't ask me how that works!

[Rocket Surgeon]

And you know, often I have sat in on guy group conversations and often they agree on the same girls that are hot. And I thought, guys had their own individual tastes :rolleyes: .


Guys can be just as "catty" as girls. As you said they're talking about "HOT". Not "NICE". From what you've written, it has nothing to do with anything other than appearence. You should have fun with that, tell them they "should see her teeth! They look like toes!" or "She has the voice of Luca Brazzi"

How would you like to hear that ordering you around in the sack? Kissy Kissy!

[Nurhachi1991]

Lucca Brazi was cool he was a Stu though.

[Rocket Surgeon]

Lucca Brazi was cool he was a Stu though.
Go post that on the Steve/Stu thread!

[DocWhiskey]

And it's the same thing with guys! Already we've had threads including this one, where teen boys are getting upset over chicks that are not good chicks. I'm sorry, but I don't believe it's just a problem for nice guys.... it's a problem for nice girls too. Believe me! To guys (I guess partly because of the industry I've chosen), I am one of the guys because I get on with the job and have a lot in common to talk about with them and am not the token pretty gal.

And you know, often I have sat in on guy group conversations and often they agree on the same girls that are hot. And I thought, guys had their own individual tastes :rolleyes: . And when a guy does approach me, they are douchebags, and remind me of one ex or the other, so I refuse giving my number. Maybe girls that want a guy will just take whoever approaches them first, but I dunno, I've been single for 3 years now and maybe I have become way too fussy. Don't ask me how that works!

In general, people are a mystery, Violet. "Hot" doesn't always mean "want a relationship with". It just sometimes means they think that person's, well, "Hot". As in, excuse my french, but want to **** them. A perfect example happened last week. My friend and I went to see the Watchmen and I overheard an attractive girl say how she thought the Comedian was "so hot". Now in the film, The Comedian rapes a woman, shoots a pregnant woman dead, and hits a woman rioter in the face with the butt of his gun. Not a nice guy. There's a bunch of gals that I find, ahem, "Hot" but I wouldn't ask them out because other then looks they're really not my type. To me, if someone approaches you and you think they're a decent person you should give them a chance. But their are far more "douchbags" as you put it then their are decent people. So don't expect Prince Charming on a daily basis. Us "nice people" finish last. But you've got to make amends that sometimes last place gets you nothing. Hang in there, kiddo. You're not the only one.

[Indyologist]

Great, another one of these...


Past?

Finn, be nice. Like you've never been hurt by anyone...

I know you can be a little difficult, but I'm not the type of person to rub people's misery in their noses. Whether someone is difficult or not, everyone has feelings that can be hurt, and I'm sorry that that happened to you. I'm very touched that you consider us your friends. Obviously you do no matter how you can be; otherwise you just wouldn't keep coming back here to see us! ;)

Anyhow, it's up to you whether or not you want to go to your prom. I say, get together with a bunch of friends who don't have a date and go for it. In the end, all the prom is, really, is just a big hyped-up party that can cost you some money if you want to do it "right." Still, try to go if you want because it's still pretty fun. I went to my own prom and the prom of a friend the next year.

I'm sorry to hear you got your heart broken. Don't hold it against her, the guy she's dating or yourself though, okay? I'm sure you are a great guy and you will eventually find someone. You might want to think about keeping her as a friend. Not only is there an outside chance she could break up with the guy and perhaps be with you (but don't get your hopes up too much, okay?), but it's great to have a friend of the opposite sex. You can ask her questions about girls, get advice, and learn so much.

In all, I promise that in time your hurt feelings will pass. They always do. I dated a guy for 4 years and I thought I was going to die when I broke it off with him, it was so darn painful. But you know... I actually got over it and took with me what I learned from the experience. It ended up being very valuable because I learned what I like and don't like in guys from him. Learn from your experience, too, and above all for God's sake, DON'T get bitter. That will ruin you for sure.

You will be fine, my friend. Surround yourself at this time with people who care about you and be good to yourself. I, personally, wish you no harm at all and wish you all the best...

[Indyologist]

To amend my message, yeah, if the girl was dishonest I would stay away from her. But still, it's great having a friend of the opposite sex if you can get one. You really can learn a lot.

BTW, those video links are broken/not working, but I'd like to see them. Any way they could be reposted so they work?

[roundshort]

Like I said in the other EMO thread, read Tucker Maxx or Chad Kultgen, and grow a pair!

[Gear]

Like I said in the other EMO thread, read Tucker Maxx or Chad Kultgen, and grow a pair!

Hrm-hm-hm.


Yeah dude, what ever you do, don't pull something like this...

http://i289.photobucket.com/albums/ll212/Gear_014/emo.jpg


No. Really...

[Violet Indy]

In general, people are a mystery, Violet. "Hot" doesn't always mean "want a relationship with". It just sometimes means they think that person's, well, "Hot". As in, excuse my french, but want to **** them. A perfect example happened last week. My friend and I went to see the Watchmen and I overheard an attractive girl say how she thought the Comedian was "so hot". Now in the film, The Comedian rapes a woman, shoots a pregnant woman dead, and hits a woman rioter in the face with the butt of his gun. Not a nice guy. There's a bunch of gals that I find, ahem, "Hot" but I wouldn't ask them out because other then looks they're really not my type. To me, if someone approaches you and you think they're a decent person you should give them a chance. But their are far more "douchbags" as you put it then their are decent people. So don't expect Prince Charming on a daily basis. Us "nice people" finish last. But you've got to make amends that sometimes last place gets you nothing. Hang in there, kiddo. You're not the only one.

Prince Charming? You've got to be kidding me. I haven't expected him since I was 15! Hey, if I did meet a guy who seems decent and isn't a "douchebag", yeah I would give him a chance (but if he reminds of one of my ex's, then I just steer clear). All the guys that have tried to get my number act all possessive real quick. I haven't even given my number and already he's trying to get his hands all over me and I haven't done anything whore-ish nor am I dressed scantily clad. And as soon as I talk to another guy (no flirting or anything, just chatting coz it's a party and it's good to meet new people and make friends), they always seem to come right up and take me away elsewhere.

I do understand there's a difference between 'hot' and 'want to be in a relationship with', but I have often seen people confuse the two. And yeah, hot doesn't mean nice. A guy friend thought this chick was really hot (a lot of guys agreed), and he tried asking her out again and again, and spending time with her, coz he also thought that she seemed nice. And you know what? She apparently turned out to be a b**** and went out with another guy, so he was pretty heartbroken. Course, I knew she wasn't exactly nice, but I couldn't have told him that, coz he wouldn't have listened, so I let him make the mistake.

[Nurhachi1991]

Like I said in the other EMO thread, read Tucker Maxx or Chad Kultgen, and grow a pair!


Isn't asking a girl out face to face " growing a pair"

[Nurhachi1991]

I have less than 3 weeks to find another date for the prom........... what would Steve Do?

[Rocket Surgeon]

I have less than 3 weeks to find another date for the prom........... what would Steve Do?

Have you watched the film yet?


Isn't asking a girl out face to face " growing a pair"

Not necessarily, you have to "be Steve" in your own way, not copy what some different Steve does!


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[Nurhachi1991]

Well I'm going to Senior Prom after all I'm driving 8 hours to go with an old girlfriend. Now thats a Steve

[Violet Indy]

Well I'm going to Senior Prom after all I'm driving 8 hours to go with an old girlfriend. Now thats a Steve

Well, I'm happy to hear that you're going. I do hope you enjoy yourself.

[monkey]

Hello Nurhachi,

I know the kind of pain you're feeling about this situation. I've been there before.

But just let me tell you one thing..........there are MILLIONS of girls out there who are looking for a nice guy like you.

I can tell you are a nice guy from your posts.

Let me tell you.....Girls like nice guys. If this particular girl chooses another guy instead of you......don't worry about it. There are a MILLION girls out there waiting for you.

Go and get them!!

Don't waste any more of your time on this girl.

Thanks,

Monkey

[Dr Bones]

Forget all the Stu and Steve BS. It's just beer swilling pizza loving trailer trash drivel.

You got played. She wanted a fallback date for the prom just incase this other guy didn't go out with her.

As for friends...meh...she probably knew how you felt but still had little regard for your feelings. You need friends like this?

Move on.

As for the prom....never understood this American obsession...sheesh no wonder you have so many therapists over there.

Go or don't...what's the big deal? It's all meaningless show.

[Nurhachi1991]

Thanks Violet and Monkey!



I dunno why us Americans hold the prom in such high regard Dr. Bones I guess it symbolizes the end of high school it's the last big thing we do as high school students.

[WillKill4Food]

I dunno why us Americans hold the prom in such high regard Dr. Bones I guess it symbolizes the end of high school it's the last big thing we do as high school students.
Not really, considering that Juniors (such as myself) can go as well.
I'm inclined to agree with Dr. Bones; it is simply "meaningless show."

[Rocket Surgeon]

Forget all the Stu and Steve BS. It's just beer swilling pizza loving trailer trash drivel.

Trailer trash in your country must be exceedingly well read. See the flick then come back, surprisingly there's more to it then what's on any Wiki or youtube.:rolleyes:

Dr Bonehead I guess we talk about what we know...;)

Hachi...have a good time, there's a lesson to be learned in all this.:up:

[HovitosKing]

I dunno why us Americans hold the prom in such high regard Dr. Bones I guess it symbolizes the end of high school it's the last big thing we do as high school students.

In that regard, it's hugely disappointing.

[Nurhachi1991]

Well I'm not going with this girl now due to a technacality. In order to go you needed to fill out paperwork if you were from out of state and the deadline for that was last week. What a **** load of ****



Oh well I give up

[WillKill4Food]

Oh well I give up
That's the spirit! :rolleyes:
If it matters so much to you, find a date for your prom. Or you could try to go to prom with your out of state friend at her school's Senior prom.
But don't give up so that years down the road from now you look back and regret it. That's the most important thing right now, I suppose. It might not matter to you now, but it might say twenty years from now.
But, if you know that you won't regret it, don't go. Go have a party with some friends who couldn't go or something. Just do something. Don't sit at home while everyone you know is at prom.

[Nurhachi1991]

I can't go to the out of state prom because of the damn packet. :(



But I have got to do something

[WillKill4Food]

But I have got to do something
Oh, I thought you meant that you were going to take the out-of-state girl to your prom. I thought it was your school that wouldn't allow you to take her to your prom.
Could you just go to her prom then? In a different state? It's not your prom, per se, but it is, after all, a senior prom.
Could you do that?

[Nurhachi1991]

Sorry I dunno if I made myself clear.


After I knew I wasn't going to take the girl from my school to my prom I had the idea of going to NV and taking another girl but her school (my old school) said it's to late to register and we can't go. My only option now is finding a date to my school in CA


Only problem is I do not know many girls there and most of them look like they could play offense for the Oakland Raiders :p

[WillKill4Food]

...I had the idea of going to NV and taking another girl but her school (my old school) said it's to late to register and we can't go. My only option now is finding a date to my school in CA
So what's stopping you from taking her to your prom?
I'm afraid I don't understand.

[Violet Indy]

Sorry I dunno if I made myself clear.


After I knew I wasn't going to take the girl from my school to my prom I had the idea of going to NV and taking another girl but her school (my old school) said it's to late to register and we can't go. My only option now is finding a date to my school in CA


Only problem is I do not know many girls there and most of them look like they could play offense for the Oakland Raiders :p

Why don't you just explain to the admin or what ever department looks after that (not in extreme detail) what happened. Surely they would listen and give you a chance. Bend the rules for once.

[Nurhachi1991]

Because I live 9 hours away WillKill4Food and I'm pretty sure she could not come up here.




I'm calling the school on Monday Violet I was a student there for 3 years and left on a good note so I don't see why they would do this to me.

[WillKill4Food]

Because I live 9 hours away WillKill4Food and I'm pretty sure she could not come up here.
And yet, you could go to her...

I'm calling the school on Monday Violet I was a student there for 3 years and left on a good note so I don't see why they would do this to me.
Persistence is the key. You're not their student anymore, so don't worry annoying them.

Personally, I don't see why it's such a trouble to you. Find a friend of the opposite gender who might want to go with you.

[WillKill4Food]

Persistence is the key. You're not their student anymore, so don't worry annoying them.
Sorry, I just looked back at this and it should be: "...don't worry about annoying them."

[Nurhachi1991]

Because I highly doubt her parents would drive all that way. My Dad agreed to go if I drove the whole way haha.




Yeah I will keep nagging till something happens

[WillKill4Food]

Because I highly doubt her parents would drive all that way.
No harm in asking.

If this proves impossible, just find a friend to take.

Or go with one of my earlier suggestions.

Just make sure you do what you want to do.

[Nurhachi1991]

Prom does mean alot to me it always has been and I will really regret it if I miss it. Hell I will go alone if need be I will look like a loser but oh well

[WillKill4Food]

Don't go alone. You can if you want, but I wouldn't suggest it. Going with friends is a lot better, man.

But let's see what comes of this girl out of state first.

[Finn]

You could always call to an escort service.

[Gear]

Or just hit up the Red Light District. You know, the Mexican one, where they're desperate and don't care about age.

[Nurhachi1991]

Good Idea Finn I will give it a try :p



Yeah or I could pay some one at Home Depot to let me take there wife haha

[Finn]

Nice to see that my idea wasn't immediately knocked out.

At least the message you'd give out would not be "I'm a loser" anymore, but more like "I'm a rich loser".

[Nurhachi1991]

And those are the best kinds of losers! Thanks Finn you always know what to say :D

[Rocket Surgeon]

And those are the best kinds of losers! Thanks Finn you always know what to say :D

Save your, (Mom and Dad's) money for Spring Break next year...to Hades with the Prom. If you can't find a girl there, well, wade into the ocean and keep walking till you do...

[WillKill4Food]

I think he should just go with a friend if he can't find a real date.
But hey, today's Monday. He said he was going to call the school.
Maybe he had good luck.

[Nurhachi1991]

No luck I called the school and it's a no deal not even my Indy lines worked " It's important......................trust me"



Meh If I can find a friend to gow tih I will.




Yeah Springbreak would be awesome except for in Mexico with all the drug wars.

[WillKill4Food]

not even my Indy lines worked " It's important......................trust me"

I really hope you went into more detail than that...
Something about how you are a Senior, in your final year of high school, and all of their regulations are rather irrelevant considering that this will be something you will remember the rest of your life, and this is the only chance you have at enjoying it, and perhaps a few more melodramatic exaggerations probably would have done nicely.

[Rocket Surgeon]

Yeah Springbreak would be awesome except for in Mexico with all the drug wars.


Try Florida...or California. If you can't find a girl, go see Indy at Disney. Lot's of deals with the state of the union.

[Nurhachi1991]

No I went into all the deatail I couls possibly do.



Yeah Florda would be awesome keep it in the states!:up:

[WillKill4Food]

No I went into all the deatail I couls possibly do.
Then find a friend to take, preferably female (unless you have considered swinging the other way)...

[Nurhachi1991]

What friends? I don;t know that many girls at my school and the ones I do know are taken. and yeah um................... no

[WillKill4Food]

Find a junior, sophomore, or freshman.
And I was just joking, man.

[|ZiR|]

I'd go to prom with you, brah. Take a walk on the wild side. :p

And I was just joking, man.

The love between two bros is no joking matter.

[Nurhachi1991]

Zir I'm flattered! haha

[IndyWolf15]

I don't even know where to start so I guess I will start at the beginning. I have had a big crush on a girl in my school for over a month. I finally worked up the courage to talk to her and shortly after we became friends. We went to a movie together I paid for everything and she let me so I figured she liked me. We got along great had so many things in common and a few weeks ago I asked her to prom she agreed to go with me and I felt great I honestly felt fantastic like nothing could touch me. I was wrong.......... There was another guy who liked her to he did not know her nearly as long as I did and they started talking and began going out. Only thing is I did not know this. I soon asked her out and she told me that I was a really good friend and still wanted to go to prom but she said she had past relationships where the guy ends up being a jerk. I was sad but I figured I'm still going to prom and who knows maybe she end up liking me. Well today I found out that she was going out with the other guy he straight up told me they were going out. I felt horrible I wasn't even mad they were going out I was just shocked and very very hurt. I told her today that I don't think we should go to prom together and that killed me inside. I was really looking forward to my Senior Prom........ Getting all dressed up driving her there and sharing a very important event with someone I really did care about and just liked being with but I can forget it. It was very embarassing to tell my Father I wasn't going to prom and to have tears in my eyes well I did it.


I just wanted to share this with everyone because I consider you guys my friends and I know I have been annoying in the past so if you want to make fun of me go for it.


):





Dude you should have told her you befriended her so you could hopefully date her i would still go for it tell her you really like her! don't let that bring you down! plz! i think I'm going to cry:( :o and i would tell her to give me chance just one date plz.

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Dude you should have told her you befriended her so you could hopefully date her i would still go for it tell her you really like her! don't let that bring you down! plz! i think I'm going to cry:( :o and i would tell her to give me chance just one date plz.

I thought your were Ayrun with that avatar!
Now, I shall become even more confused. :(

[Nurhachi1991]

Well yesterday was my last day of High School finished early and don't have to go back till June when I get my dimploma and stuff.


So yesterday I gave her a birthday present cause today is her birthday and next thing you know she invites me to lunch and wants to go to prom with me. I dunno what the hell happened but in the words of Doctor Emmet L Brown "Great Scott"

[The Golden Idol]

So yesterday I gave her a birthday present cause today is her birthday and next thing you know she invites me to lunch and wants to go to prom with me. I dunno what the hell happened but in the words of Doctor Emmet L Brown "Great Scott"

Cool. Not to rain on your parade or anything, but I wouldn't get too happy or hopeful just yet.

[Lonsome_Drifter]

I honestly would not go with the girl after what she did. I have more pride than that. But, it's your life and your call.

[Niteshade007]

You're really not guaranteed that she won't back out again, and I wouldn't consider this a "win," but it couldn't hurt to go with her. At this point, you really don't have anything to lose.

[Nurhachi1991]

No your not raining on my parade at all I spent all day with her and we had a blast just chilling and talking and stuff I'm not going to ask her out again so were probally just going to remain good friends but we are going to prom together and that's fine I can live with that.

[WillKill4Food]

First off, I'd like to remind you that punctuation is your friend. There was not a single comma or period in that above post. I'm not being picky, it's just that punctuation makes things a lot easier to read and understand.

Meanwhile, I do think you should go to prom with her (unless you think there's another girl who you could go with), but like you said, just remain friends.

After what she did to you, I don't see any reason for you to be so enamored with her. Of course, I don't know her at all, but from what I've heard of her she is not a girl you want to try to start a relationship with.

[The Magic Rat]

http://cache.daylife.com/imageserve/05Bs0pV49GgUB/610x.jpg

I've got a bad feeling about this

[Nurhachi1991]

WillKill I was very tired when I wrote that so sorry about the punctuation. I don't know why I'm so attracted to her I just am.







Hahaha nice pic Magic Rat


Thats no moon it's a space station.

[Gear]

Hahahrm,




Double grammar fail.

[IndyWolf15]

Well yesterday was my last day of High School finished early and don't have to go back till June when I get my dimploma and stuff.


So yesterday I gave her a birthday present cause today is her birthday and next thing you know she invites me to lunch and wants to go to prom with me. I dunno what the hell happened but in the words of Doctor Emmet L Brown "Great Scott"

I think if you asked her out and she said no i would leave her alone. I'm so sorry.

[Nurhachi1991]

What are you going on about Gear?




Thanks Indywolf

[IndyWolf15]

What are you going on about Gear?




Thanks Indywolf

Your Welcome. I said that because if you keep asking her and finally she says yes because you keep asking her, she will not love you for the true reasons.

[Gear]

Something I probably shouldn't go on about, considering my user name has no CAPS (which was probably intentional at the time) and I've pulled off one or two grammatical mistakes myself in my day. Just a couple though... ceriusly, just one or too.

[Nurhachi1991]

Something I probably shouldn't go on about, considering my user name has no CAPS (which was probably intentional at the time) and I've pulled off one or two grammatical mistakes myself in my day. Just a couple though... ceriusly, just one or too.



Haha yeah man I try to get my speeling and grammer good at all times :rolleyes:

[Lonsome_Drifter]

Something I probably shouldn't go on about, considering my user name has no CAPS (which was probably intentional at the time)

At least your user-name does not have a typo like mine. :(

[WillKill4Food]

I don't know why I'm so attracted to her I just am.
So is it only physical attraction?
If the only reason you like her is that "she's hot," you probably should try to find a different girl.
There are a lot of other things to look for in a girl besides looks.

[Note: I'm not saying that that is you're only reason that you're so infatuated with her. That's just what I assumed from your wording.]

[Gear]

At least your user-name does not have a typo like mine. :(



I had actually never noticed. Ha! FAIL ;)


If the only reason you like her is that "she's hot," you probably should try to find a different girl.
There are a lot of other things to look for in a girl besides looks.


Oh, get a grip. the three of us are, what, 16, 17, 18? C'mon, this is the time when it's most socially acceptable to 'play the field'. At a certain later point, you find yourself expected to "settle down", and certainly there are a helluva lotta 35 year-old guys out there who sure envy sorry teenage SOBs.

[Nurhachi1991]

So is it only physical attraction?
If the only reason you like her is that "she's hot," you probably should try to find a different girl.
There are a lot of other things to look for in a girl besides looks.

[Note: I'm not saying that that is you're only reason that you're so infatuated with her. That's just what I assumed from your wording.]


Actually no I think she is very pretty and that is some of the attraction I have towards her but mainly I just love being with her,talking to her, just hanging out with her.



And I agree with Gear nothing wrong with playing the field she had no problem doing it.

[WillKill4Food]

C'mon, this is the time when it's most socially acceptable to 'play the field'.
Well, I suppose so, but you still wouldn't want to date a flaky girl just because she's "hot," would you?
I realize that the likely answer that question is "yes"...
Sigh.

[Nurhachi1991]

No I would not date a girl just because she is hot I would have to be attracted to her personality to. But being hot doesn't hurt :up:

[Gear]

Well, I suppose so, but you still wouldn't want to date a flaky girl just because she's "hot," would you?
I realize that the likely answer that question is "yes"...
Sigh.


Okay, look. I don't just think with my testes. I realize there are other redeeming qualities to gals (or any gender for that matter) than.... ;) you know. And most of those gals know there are other redeeming qualities to guys than simply... :rolleyes: Eh.


You have to have standards and self esteem, but then again I sometimes found it silly how teens treat every relationship as if it's a sacred love bondage. That's by no means to say we haven't had meaningful relationships, there are special B/G friends we make; my friend's parents met in high school and have been married 19 years.

There's a difference between "buddies" and "lovers", if you get my drift, and we meet them at varying stages in existence.

[Dr Bones]

there are a helluva lotta 35 year-old guys out there who sure envy sorry teenage SOBs.


YUP...ME!!!

I say take her, hit all the bases and then when you've had your innings, knock her outta the park. ;)

Karma.

[Nurhachi1991]

Exactly Dr. Bones..................... Exactly :hat:

[Nurhachi1991]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh I'm falling for this girl again I just can't help myself (Rocket I guess I'm a Stu) I just don't want to get hurt but at this point I don't care I'm crazy about this girl.

[Gear]

Chop your ear off and give it to her. It'll end your problem.

[Nurhachi1991]

Ahhhhhhhh Vincent Van Gogh classic yet original good call Gear.



Gear I'm just curious what would you do? Have you been in love before?

[Gear]

What would I do, you ask?





... In your current situation, going to prom with this chick you've fallen for?..


To be truthful, I'd probably just F-it and go with her allowing whatever happened to happen. Sometimes, to a none lethal level, you have to throw such prudence out the window and have a good time... unless her name's Prudence, in which case don't go [I]that far. You'll only be 17 once in this life.


And since you asked me about "love",

There's a difference between "buddies" and "lovers", if you get my drift, and we meet them at varying stages in existence.