WillKill4Food
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"By telling stories, you objectify your own experience. You separate it from yourself. You pin down certain truths..."
Anyway, that's a statement that really is true for me. Writing and talking about what's happening around me is the best way for me to analyze what's happening in my life.
And that's why I'm here. I'm afraid to talk to anyone who knows her, and all of my friends know her. And even if none of you actually read this, I know it has helped me to write it out.
WARNING: Below you'll find sentimental drama of a sort.
There's a girl I know. She's a friend. She's so...words can't describe her. She's intelligent, witty, gorgeous. But she's just a friend.
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a guy that I know. I don't know how it came up in conversation, but he suggested that I ask her out. I rejected the idea at first. She's just a friend, I told him.
But that was an artificial reason, an excuse to hide the real reason I hadn't considered asking her out.
First off, she was dating a guy at the time. Second, I'm afraid that she's "out of my league." Third, I don't want to ruin a friendship.
Ever since that day when he said that, I've thought about her almost constantly. I can't get her out of my head. I see her, and I'm happiest when I'm talking to her.
We're in a political debate club together at school. I even took her side (which I don't agree with) on a debate that we're going to be preparing together just so that I could spend more time with her.
And I think I really like her. I want to date her, to become more than just friends.
Well, I just found out tonight, thanks to Facebook, that they broke up. I saw the relationship status thing changed to "Single," and she wrote something about how she just wanted to forget him.
And I was happy. Happy. Actually happy that she had broken up with a guy.
Is it selfishness? Human nature? Or are they one and the same?
Isn't it wrong for me to rejoice inside when I find out that she's just broken up with him? Obviously, she's going to be broken-hearted. And yet I was actually happy that she broke up.
If I really like her, if she really is a friend, then it shouldn't please me to know that they broke up. I am really upset with myself for being happy about it, even though it was only momentary. I can't help feeling guilty.
And even still, I don't know what to do or what to say.
If you have actually gotten this far, then thanks. And I'd appreciate your opinion.
-Tim O'Brien, The Things They Carried
That is a quote about the Vietnam War, of course, as any of you who have read any of O'Brien's work know. If you have never read any of his work, The Things They Carried is a book I'd recommend to anyone.Anyway, that's a statement that really is true for me. Writing and talking about what's happening around me is the best way for me to analyze what's happening in my life.
And that's why I'm here. I'm afraid to talk to anyone who knows her, and all of my friends know her. And even if none of you actually read this, I know it has helped me to write it out.
WARNING: Below you'll find sentimental drama of a sort.
There's a girl I know. She's a friend. She's so...words can't describe her. She's intelligent, witty, gorgeous. But she's just a friend.
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a guy that I know. I don't know how it came up in conversation, but he suggested that I ask her out. I rejected the idea at first. She's just a friend, I told him.
But that was an artificial reason, an excuse to hide the real reason I hadn't considered asking her out.
First off, she was dating a guy at the time. Second, I'm afraid that she's "out of my league." Third, I don't want to ruin a friendship.
Ever since that day when he said that, I've thought about her almost constantly. I can't get her out of my head. I see her, and I'm happiest when I'm talking to her.
We're in a political debate club together at school. I even took her side (which I don't agree with) on a debate that we're going to be preparing together just so that I could spend more time with her.
And I think I really like her. I want to date her, to become more than just friends.
Well, I just found out tonight, thanks to Facebook, that they broke up. I saw the relationship status thing changed to "Single," and she wrote something about how she just wanted to forget him.
And I was happy. Happy. Actually happy that she had broken up with a guy.
Is it selfishness? Human nature? Or are they one and the same?
Isn't it wrong for me to rejoice inside when I find out that she's just broken up with him? Obviously, she's going to be broken-hearted. And yet I was actually happy that she broke up.
If I really like her, if she really is a friend, then it shouldn't please me to know that they broke up. I am really upset with myself for being happy about it, even though it was only momentary. I can't help feeling guilty.
And even still, I don't know what to do or what to say.
If you have actually gotten this far, then thanks. And I'd appreciate your opinion.
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