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In March, on spring break, I met a girl in NYC. She is everything I've ever wanted in a girl. She's perfect for me. We knew from the get-go how difficult things would be if we started dating, but that week in NYC was probably the best of my life. And hers too. So, we decided to date. Long distance. She came down in April for a week and stayed here and met my family. Things went well. I then visited her from mid May until Mid June, for a month. Met her entire family and helped her move into a new apartment. Things went well.
But. The reality of long distance relationships is beginning to dawn on the both of us. I've spent years of my life here at home wishing I could move somewhere more interesting. Now I have the chance, but I am noticing the things that I have here that are important to me more than I used to. My friends, my band, my dog Rusty... my niece JoJo. I've lived here for 24 years.
But in NYC, is the most perfect girl I've ever met in my life. She will do anything for me and is the best friend I've ever had. I'm totally head over heels in love with her. I am thinking of moving to NYC now, in August or September. The thing that made me doubt it all? When my niece Jo-Jo recently ran up to me, she's only 2 1/2, and wanted me to pick her up and gave me a kiss and told me she loved me. It melted my heart. I realized how much my family and home has meant to me. But is that enough of a reason to stay? Do I stay for others or leave for me? If I stay, I am staying partly for myself of course. I love my family. But I wonder if it's wiser to take a chance at starting my own life. Right now, it seems all NYC has is my girl. But if I don't take the chance I'll never know if it would work.
If I don't go to NYC. The best girlfriend I've ever had, this relationship will end. And I'll lose her. She is willing to move her, but she is stuck in a lease and can't just up and leave for almost a year. Plus, she just moved into a new apartment like I said. I don't know if we could make it that long, long distance.
So I'm aware it's a decision I, ultimately, have to make myself. But I would appreciate any input anyone here can give. Because it's been racking my brain for weeks.
It's very hard to leave or to stay. I'm not sure what to do.
But. The reality of long distance relationships is beginning to dawn on the both of us. I've spent years of my life here at home wishing I could move somewhere more interesting. Now I have the chance, but I am noticing the things that I have here that are important to me more than I used to. My friends, my band, my dog Rusty... my niece JoJo. I've lived here for 24 years.
But in NYC, is the most perfect girl I've ever met in my life. She will do anything for me and is the best friend I've ever had. I'm totally head over heels in love with her. I am thinking of moving to NYC now, in August or September. The thing that made me doubt it all? When my niece Jo-Jo recently ran up to me, she's only 2 1/2, and wanted me to pick her up and gave me a kiss and told me she loved me. It melted my heart. I realized how much my family and home has meant to me. But is that enough of a reason to stay? Do I stay for others or leave for me? If I stay, I am staying partly for myself of course. I love my family. But I wonder if it's wiser to take a chance at starting my own life. Right now, it seems all NYC has is my girl. But if I don't take the chance I'll never know if it would work.
If I don't go to NYC. The best girlfriend I've ever had, this relationship will end. And I'll lose her. She is willing to move her, but she is stuck in a lease and can't just up and leave for almost a year. Plus, she just moved into a new apartment like I said. I don't know if we could make it that long, long distance.
So I'm aware it's a decision I, ultimately, have to make myself. But I would appreciate any input anyone here can give. Because it's been racking my brain for weeks.
It's very hard to leave or to stay. I'm not sure what to do.