Does the thought of death scare you?

The Drifter

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I find myself sitting and thinking about when I die. We all have got to go one day, and the thought scares me greatly. I have my own beliefs (lets not get into a religious debate here please), but the thought still frightens me out of my mind. So, does anyone else think of how it will be when we die, and are you afraid of it?

I stress again, please no religious posts, because they all lead to arguments, and hurt feelings. Thank you!
 

DocWhiskey

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The thought of actually dying doesn't really scare me. I'm a young guy, hopefully I have a long time left, so I never really thought about the act of dying. I'd sometimes think about how my friends and family would act if I died. But the thing that really scares me is what happens after you die. Not the whole "where will I go?" angle but the fact that it's "forever". Wherever we go we're going to be there forever. FOREVER. What the hell do we do there?
 

The Drifter

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DocWhiskey said:
The thought of actually dying doesn't really scare me. I'm a young guy, hopefully I have a long time left, so I never really thought about the act of dying. I'd sometimes think about how my friends and family would act if I died. But the thing that really scares me is what happens after you die. Not the whole "where will I go?" angle but the fact that it's "forever". Wherever we go we're going to be there forever. FOREVER. What the hell do we do there?

I know what you mean. The though of pure oblivion, or blackness, or even nothingness scares me more than the idea of a Hell.
 

Insomniac

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Lonsome_Drifter said:
I know what you mean. The though of pure oblivion, or blackness, or even nothingness scares me more than the idea of a Hell.
I used to be frightened off hell and then thought I shouldn't waste life worrying about death while I could be living life!:hat:
 

bennihana123

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My personal belief (emphasis on personal) is that when we die, we lose consciousness, and never wake up. It's the oblivion, or blackness that has been talked about. I don't think that I'm really scared of death, its just that I don't want to stop living, if that makes any sense. I try to live every day to the fullest, but I don't think about death all the time. A few friends of the family have recently died, so it has been on my mind, but I don't think about it too much.
 

Chicago Jones

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great question! Death is my greatest fear. I once stood up for days because I was afraid I would die in my sleep, I even wrote a note for my family and friends...pretty sad but true.

knowing if we just die out like batteries or if we move on would defiantly ease my fear
 

Zeppelin

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The great unknown mystery, eh?
I used to have rather traditional religious beliefs on the subject, but lately I've grown fond of the idea of complete oblivion. It's kind of comforting, in a way.
 

Morning Bell

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Not really. As a Christian I'm confident in my belief that those who accept and trust in Jesus shall be saved. It's the best and most comforting decision I've ever made in my life. If anything, my life doesn't truly begin until I leave this world.:hat:
 
Lonsome_Drifter said:
I find myself sitting and thinking about when I die. We all have got to go one day, and the thought scares me greatly. I have my own beliefs (lets not get into a religious debate here please), but the thought still frightens me out of my mind. So, does anyone else think of how it will be when we die, and are you afraid of it?

I stress again, please no religious posts, because they all lead to arguments, and hurt feelings. Thank you!

Have you had a recent loss? I've been raised Catholic, and thankfully so. I've been fortunate to be exposed to great men and women of faith...from sheep to the most enviable of the educated, still the after-life is a matter of faith and belief.

I have embraced science more so then any other discipline or faith. I accept the idea of oblivion yet hope for something more. I know this is a matter that is out of my hands and so I choose to focus on those things that I can effect...physically: longevity and spiritually: well that's between me and God.

There's no avoiding the inevitable so, (not to be too cheesy, but) one quote that strikes a chord with me is...

"All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."

...and really that's all.

Here's my last cliché...but I think a useful one:

Accept the things I cannot change; to have the courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

I'm not scared and won't be until it actually happens, because no matter how long you live there will still be things left undone.

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tnswman

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I guess the best way to look at it would be to realize that you start with wasting seconds of LIFE by thinking about it...then you end up losing DAYS with worry.

There really is not much control that any person can have over Death.....In my years as a Cop, I saw people die that should have been fine ( in wrecks and such ) and people live that shouldn't have. It's ALL in God's hands.

So, with that thought, I am not worried about death as much as I am losing my family BEFORE I die. The thought of losing a child or wife before you is TERRIBLE.

Even though I am a Christian with VERY strong Faith, I do believe that FATE has a hand in each of our lives. Of course, there are times when humans do things directly or not that could lead to death.

But one thing is for sure, EVERYONE will die....It's best to just wish to go in peace at an OLD age surrounded by your loved ones.
 

The Drifter

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All of these are great responses. Your posts helped me realize that I should not worry about death, but make the best of my life. I'll try not to worry to much about it, and I do have my faith to help me in my life. So, that is a huge comfort.

And, yes losing my wife or kids would be far more worse than my own death. Call me selfish, but I would rather die before any of my family! Spare me the pain of such a great loss.
 

the hammer42

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I am not afraid to die.
I have been around death from a young age.
I lost a lot of family and friends. Its a part of life.
I just hope that I won't die too young so I can see my kids grow up and maybe my grandchildren.
For me the thought of death is verry real.
But its also a motivation to enjoy every moment I have on this earth.
The world has been here for so long and I get to live on this earth for just a short time.
I will take what Life will give me.

And after I die its not over. Just a new beginning.
 

kongisking

Active member
You all know where I stand on concepts of "the afterlife", so I am also deeply terrified and depressed by the thought of death. It's THE END. Nothing gets scarier than that, my friends. If there was a reasonable way to become immortal, I would do it before you could say, "an old man's dream"! I just hate the fact that I live in a world where there are so many things to do and knowing that I won't be around to experience 97% of them! All the things I'm going to miss out on.

Think of people who lived back in, say, the 1600's or early 20's. They never got to see all the amazing things we have now! Internet, space travel, Indy, etc. Now try and imagine all the neat gizmos I'M gonna miss out on! I won't be alive to see mankind's first time machine, or see the world's first cloned human, or contact with intelligent extraterrestrial life! It's unfair! If there is a God, then I despise him for giving us such a pathetically short time to live.

And it's made even worse by the fact that I know there will be people that will miss me and mourn me; my passing will cause grief and depression and heartbreak. I know this because my grandfather passed away a few months ago. My regret was enormous, because I never did respect him or think well of him. Imagine how I feel about that now. I'll never be able to tell him I loved him and genuinely cared for him. While he was here, I just kinda acknowledged his existence; I didn't hang out with him or anything. His archaic Christian views and my literal-minded youthful pompousness did not mix.

Anyway, long story short, I'm terrified of the inevitability of death. Now if only there was a way to make Horcruxes without committing murder and splitting my soul and becoming a snake-man! ARGH!
 
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