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ok so im asking the Indy Community for advise on love...
so there's this girl, her name is Amber (Love that name, its a beautiful name) and we used to date each other. we are very very different from each other. for example, our choice in movies we like (me: action, adventure and sci fi type stuff; her: more of a classic, oldie and 'battle-of-the-wits' kinda movies), our choice in books (pretty much the same deal), choice in music, etc. music was a big one; we both like alternative (she got me into it), but she HATES country, which i happen to love. hell, when we went to our homecoming dance together, they played a Taylor Swift song and she refused to dance to it.
anyway, so how it ended was i was being an idiot. she wasnt feeling good for a couple of days and i thought she was like ignoring me. now see, im a very paranoid person, no joke, i honestly think that poeple i know and love keep secrets from me and stuff. anyway, so i asked her sister (now i know i messed up big time here) if Amber even cared about me anymore. bad mistake. her sister told her and she broke up with me.
now understand that our relationship wasnt what one would imagine as a 'normal' kinda relationship. i loved her, but she didnt love me back. she liked me a lot, but she didnt feel the same way i did for her.
so now here i am, and i thought i was over her breaking up with me, but thoughts keep coming back to me (which is a bad thing). i miss the feelings i had for her, the fun times we had, and every little detail about it. but see, we arent very compatible, and one of my friends told me that dating is just a way to find out who's more compatible with you, y'know what i mean? a relationship wouldnt have lasted much longer between us, i think, because we werent compatible enough. but here i am now, and i considered trying to get together with her again, but i know for a fact that that wont happen. i mean we're still friends (not as good as we used to be before i asked her out), but...its like i am being torn apart by 2 different feelings. one side: im not sure if i still love her, but i kinda want to get back together with her, and i just want those good old feelings back.
the other side: i could find another girl, which could be just as bad a problem; think about it: i find another girl, whom might actually love me like i would love her, and then i forget all about my problems with Amber, but if something were to happen between me and my new girlfriend and we broke up, then i would be in the same exact position i am in now, maybe even worse. and i keep tellin myself that Amber and i cant possibly get back together because it just wouldnt work out, but the other part of me isnt listening to that.
its a really confusing situation. i just need some advise from you all. i would go to my "Sister" for adivse, but shes heard so much of this kinda stuff from me that she could use a break from it. maybe ill still ask her, i dunno. but what do you all think? is this, like, normal? i have never been in a relationship until i met Amber, and i havent really experienced break-ups before. what do you think i should do???
so there's this girl, her name is Amber (Love that name, its a beautiful name) and we used to date each other. we are very very different from each other. for example, our choice in movies we like (me: action, adventure and sci fi type stuff; her: more of a classic, oldie and 'battle-of-the-wits' kinda movies), our choice in books (pretty much the same deal), choice in music, etc. music was a big one; we both like alternative (she got me into it), but she HATES country, which i happen to love. hell, when we went to our homecoming dance together, they played a Taylor Swift song and she refused to dance to it.
anyway, so how it ended was i was being an idiot. she wasnt feeling good for a couple of days and i thought she was like ignoring me. now see, im a very paranoid person, no joke, i honestly think that poeple i know and love keep secrets from me and stuff. anyway, so i asked her sister (now i know i messed up big time here) if Amber even cared about me anymore. bad mistake. her sister told her and she broke up with me.
now understand that our relationship wasnt what one would imagine as a 'normal' kinda relationship. i loved her, but she didnt love me back. she liked me a lot, but she didnt feel the same way i did for her.
so now here i am, and i thought i was over her breaking up with me, but thoughts keep coming back to me (which is a bad thing). i miss the feelings i had for her, the fun times we had, and every little detail about it. but see, we arent very compatible, and one of my friends told me that dating is just a way to find out who's more compatible with you, y'know what i mean? a relationship wouldnt have lasted much longer between us, i think, because we werent compatible enough. but here i am now, and i considered trying to get together with her again, but i know for a fact that that wont happen. i mean we're still friends (not as good as we used to be before i asked her out), but...its like i am being torn apart by 2 different feelings. one side: im not sure if i still love her, but i kinda want to get back together with her, and i just want those good old feelings back.
the other side: i could find another girl, which could be just as bad a problem; think about it: i find another girl, whom might actually love me like i would love her, and then i forget all about my problems with Amber, but if something were to happen between me and my new girlfriend and we broke up, then i would be in the same exact position i am in now, maybe even worse. and i keep tellin myself that Amber and i cant possibly get back together because it just wouldnt work out, but the other part of me isnt listening to that.
its a really confusing situation. i just need some advise from you all. i would go to my "Sister" for adivse, but shes heard so much of this kinda stuff from me that she could use a break from it. maybe ill still ask her, i dunno. but what do you all think? is this, like, normal? i have never been in a relationship until i met Amber, and i havent really experienced break-ups before. what do you think i should do???
