Nurhachi1991 said:
I finally worked up the courage to talk to her and shortly after we became friends. We went to a movie together I paid for everything and she let me so I figured she liked me. We got along great had so many things in common and a few weeks ago I asked her to prom she agreed to go with me and I felt great I honestly felt fantastic like nothing could touch me. I was wrong.......... There was another guy who liked her to he did not know her nearly as long as I did and they started talking and began going out. Only thing is I did not know this. I soon asked her out and she told me that I was a really good friend and still wanted to go to prom but she said she had past relationships where the guy ends up being a jerk. I was sad but I figured I'm still going to prom and who knows maybe she end up liking me. Well today I found out that she was going out with the other guy he straight up told me they were going out. I felt horrible I wasn't even mad they were going out I was just shocked and very very hurt. I told her today that I don't think we should go to prom together and that killed me inside. I was really looking forward to my Senior Prom........ Getting all dressed up driving her there and sharing a very important event with someone I really did care about and just liked being with but I can forget it. It was very embarassing to tell my Father I wasn't going to prom and to have tears in my eyes well I did it.I just wanted to share this with everyone because I consider you guys my friends and I know I have been annoying in the past so if you want to make fun of me go for it.):
Well well well, what do we have here, a loser!
No, I'm kidding of course...but you have to get over the poor me phase...and quickly. Don't waddle in the mud!
The first good thing you did was get up your courage, felt good didn't it? Well once is not enough, you have to maintain! You have to get that courage up over and over again. Good news is the more you do something the easier it gets, bad news it doesn't mean you're not going to take more lumps!
Give her new guy some credit, he's telling you like it is, not just denying it. If anything, she'll drop him when something better comes along so good riddance! At least you found out before you dropped REAL money on her, (you didn't DID YOU?).
Rule Number 1: Money is a poor substitue for charisma. Sure it'll get you what you want but was it enough? Stop wasting your money, save it.
Rule Number 2: Don't show weakness. You save confessions like that for a time when you know her better.
Rule Number 3: (Warning, sterotype) You have to approach whatever you do as an opportunity. Hell in this season for the Irish remeber they have fun at FUNERALS. Nothiing attracts others like the promise of fun. Smile, laugh, try to make girls laugh! Don't look for the long term, long term should involve your education...REALLY, and saving money!
Rule Number 4: Pay attention to your instincts, don't blindly trust them.
Here endeth the lesson...go forth and have fun!
One last bit of advice, don't even worry about going to the Prom with friends, (if you can...do), you should go to the Prom at any cost even alone. Be happy for this girl, your presence will be a constant reminder of her shallowness, and believe me she thinks about you paying for your date and misleading you (if she in fact did) as much as you. As was mentioned earlier don't take it as an opportunity to be a douchebag, but go. Bring a cousin or something, a friend's sister, an older girl, or whatever, just not your mom. Don't obsess on this chick. Don't even look at her. If you do run into her smile and say something nice and move on.
Living well is the best revenge...show whoever you go with a good time, be fun and you'll have fun.
GO RENT THE TAO OF STEVE...NOW!
DON'T BE A STU, (sorry stoo) BE A STEVE!
Eliminate your desires.
Do something excellent in her presence, thereby proving your worthiness.
Retreat, for as Martin Heidegger said, "We pursue that which retreats from us".
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